Loving After Loss

Loving after loss is really hard for many people. I know a lot of people who are divorced, widowed, or single who are terrified to love again.  They don’t want to have the loss, the grief, or the complication again.  I get that. But I wanted to love again.  Brene Brown wrote “We are biologically, cognitively, […]

When will I see him again?

Please don’t ask me when I’ll see Tim again. It hurts my heart. This is definitely not how I imagined my marriage going. Being a widowed person, remarried, I had high hopes of living with my new husband. Finally getting to do the day-to-day things I had been missing after Steve died. I was tired […]

Making Moments Matter

I had a harder time with Father’s Day than I expected. But actually it hit me a day later when I sat down with my counsellor. “How are you doing?” she asked. The tears started coming. My younger daughter turned 4 the day before Father’s Day. The collision of the two special days did me […]

Daddy Duties

The first time my windshield fluid went dry in my minivan, I got a sinking feeling in my stomach. Dread came over me. This was the first time in so many years that I was going to have to do this on my own. Don’t get me wrong. I’m an accomplished, feminist type of woman. […]

The Monopoly on Missing Him

The Monopoly on Missing Him I’ve been so focused on myself and my own grieving. I’ve come to believe that no one else can truly be suffering and missing Steve like I can. Like I get to win the prize of Best Griever. Yay me! While there is some truth to that, Steve was my […]

Do I Live Happily Ever After?

Do I Live Happily Ever After? I have always loved a happy ending. Growing up, I loved the Disney movies with the princesses who found their prince and lived happily ever after. Who doesn’t want to “live happily ever after?” But what does “happily ever after” mean? When is the after? To what point? The […]