Loving after loss is really hard for many people. I know a lot of people who are divorced, widowed, or single who are terrified to love again.
They don’t want to have the loss, the grief, or the complication again.
I get that. But I wanted to love again.
Brene Brown wrote “We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.”
After Steve died, I couldn’t imagine spending the rest of my life without a partner. Someone to be my partner in life. To dream with, to build with.
It makes me mad when amazing women I know don’t fight hard enough for the lives they want. Sure, it doesn’t have to include a man. But it could!
Tim, my second husband, was amazing. He was all the things I dreamed of. I was so incredibly surprised that he already existed! That he was out there, doing his thing, waiting to meet me too. Loving after loss was something we both were doing together! We understood the preciousness of life.
When things got tough with our long-distance relationship or blended family, I knew he was worth it and we were worth fighting for.
And now? Sure, I’ve questioned if I want the potential heartache again.
But what I know for sure, is that I’m going to live the hell out of life, make the most of it, and do all the things that bring me joy. I’m going to live bravely and make mistakes.
I want to encourage you to be your brave self. Love more and find where you belong.
I’m here for you along the way. Join me over on Instagram as I rebuild my life yet again as a “Double Widow” and share the journey with you.